This has been a common theme lately I have noticed.
What does the phrase “I can’t” give to you if you want to do something but tell yourself, “I can’t” or even “I don’t know how?”
Obviously we have certain 3D physical limitations on what we can do and what we cannot do, however, many times when we say this to ourselves, it has nothing to do with 3D limitations. See my recent post on procrastination to get more in depth with how these thought processes are related to procrastination. In addition to procrastination these thoughts lead to inaction. We cannot reach our goals if we do not take steps towards reaching that goal. We do not have to go “all-in” all at once, we can take baby steps towards reaching our goal.
Rather than thinking, “I can’t,” make a list of things that you CAN do. And when you do this, do not give yourself a reason to say, “I can…BUT” – once you insert the “but” into the equation, the “I can” phrase turns into an “I can’t” phrase. Meditate on things that you can do. Clear your mind and do not allow yourself to stop yourself from listing things that you can do. Ask yourself questions. If something like money is giving you your “I can’t” phrase, ask yourself what you CAN do without this limitation!
Now to the infamous “I don’t know” – usually when we say “I don’t know” we actually DO know. I wrote about this topic further in a different post. If you “don’t know” again, ask yourself questions, meditate on why you believe that you don’t know. Many times, “I don’t know” is a procrastination tool. Ask yourself if there is something that you know, but you are placing a “BUT” in the middle of it somewhere or otherwise giving yourself an excuse to dismiss that in which you know.
When we tell ourselves “I can’t” or “I don’t know” – we put ourselves in a position of non-movement. If there is something that we want to do and we tell ourselves these things, we won’t take any action towards achieving that thing. If you wanted to start your own business, for example, how helpful would those phrases be in achieving this goal? Starting a business sometimes can take funds, and sometimes not having those funds is part of why “I can’t” – however, we do not need money to brainstorm about this business, how we want certain things to look and operate. Depending on the business, it doesn’t take any money to start a website. There are free options to choose from and, although they might not be with your own domain name etc., it is a place to start. There is nothing wrong in starting small. Like they say, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” Facebook pages are also an option too, and they are free to create!
I was someone, and still am to a degree, one that allowed these thoughts to overtake my mind in achieving my goals. However, once I started thinking about what I could do instead of couldn’t do and let go of any expectations on how I was going to get there, knowing that having a small start and small growth is not a bad thing, and letting go of judgment on how “good” I was doing at any given moment, I have been able to see some of the growth that I was seeking in the beginning. I am still in that process too!
You can and you do know! What you do not know, CAN hurt you….