Silence: How to find truth

It was in his silence that I had found the only voice that had ever mattered. My own. It was with this silence that I didn’t have anything else besides me, myself, and I. I realized exactly how I was treating myself. I finally was able to hear myself. And I wasn’t treating myself tooContinue reading “Silence: How to find truth”

The Difference Between Self-Blame and Self-Accountability

I have been thinking about this recently.  How can one take accountability for one’s own self, but at the same time avoid negative self-talk and putting self down?  I asked myself what the difference was, where is the “cutoff” – when does taking account for yourself turn into negative self-talk and putting yourself down? WhatContinue reading “The Difference Between Self-Blame and Self-Accountability”

Compare & Contrast: Why you shouldn’t compare your life to others’

In one of my recent posts, I spoke about perspective (  And in creating our perspectives, often times we compare our situation with someone else’s. When we compare our current situation to that of someone else, we do a disservice to ourselves in the experience that we are experiencing and comparing.  We aren’t living inContinue reading “Compare & Contrast: Why you shouldn’t compare your life to others’”

Light & Dark

Light cannot exist without dark. Dark cannot exist without light. The universe created darkness so that we could see the light. When you experience something bad, something dark, the universe is trying to show you light!  Next time something happens that seems like it’s bad, see what kind of light comes from it! The universeContinue reading “Light & Dark”

I Can’t…I Don’t Know – Why these phrases are stopping you from being your best self

This has been a common theme lately I have noticed. What does the phrase “I can’t” give to you if you want to do something but tell yourself, “I can’t” or even “I don’t know how?” Obviously we have certain 3D physical limitations on what we can do and what we cannot do, however, manyContinue reading “I Can’t…I Don’t Know – Why these phrases are stopping you from being your best self”

The Spiritual Ego

I wanted to write about this for a while now.  The good ole spiritual ego.  The spiritual ego is anything that would be considered spiritual that is not based in spiritual fact, the bare bones of it, free from any mind concepts, or at least as free from them as possible.  When it comes toContinue reading “The Spiritual Ego”

Confessions of a People Pleaser: How to Identify & Heal People Pleasing Behaviors

I don’t think I ever considered myself to be a “people pleaser” until I started to take a look into myself.  I had always just considered myself to be extremely self-less and just a nice person.  I did not realize what my people pleasing stemmed from and why it was not a good thing untilContinue reading “Confessions of a People Pleaser: How to Identify & Heal People Pleasing Behaviors”

How to Listen Effectively

One of my latest posts was about effective communication  But communicating effectively is a two way street.  That means communicating effectively and listening effectively.  Sometimes you can tell exactly what someone is really trying to say by listening effectively enough.  Listening effectively can also pertain to someone’s actions. This might sound contradictory to some,Continue reading “How to Listen Effectively”

How to Communicate Effectively

Related: How to Listen Effectively A lot of arguments stem from ineffective communication.  Have you ever heard an argument being started because someone made an innocent comment to another, but the other person translated that comment in their own mind to be something that it did not mean?  For example, if a husband and wifeContinue reading “How to Communicate Effectively”

True Self-Love

Many people say that in order to love another, you must love yourself first.  But a lot of people don’t fully know what that means.  Ask yourself, what do you do to show yourself love?  People would answer with things like, “I make sure that I take time to relax, go get my nails done,Continue reading “True Self-Love”

What is Dynamic in Connection?

What does the word dynamic mean to you as it relates to connection?  Your connection to other people?  Most people would define it with definitions that connect one person’s actions causing another persons actions.  This is not the case.  Dynamic in connection is the/a state of being that co-exists and interacts with another state ofContinue reading “What is Dynamic in Connection?”

How Fear Disguises Itself

Fear is an illusion, especially emotional fear (fear of being emotionally hurt by another person) created by the mind to keep you going in circles, a story you tell yourself to give you a false sense of control so you can constantly self-sabotage and you won’t even know it unless you’re conscious of it. FearContinue reading “How Fear Disguises Itself”

"Woke AF"

Dear Society, being “woke” has nothing to do with being PC. Being “woke” is the complete opposite of trying to control your surroundings. It’s the complete opposite of trying to force your will upon others. It’s not about trying to fix an inner problem or problems with an outside solution. It has very little, ifContinue reading “"Woke AF"”

How to Heal Your Pain

Pain is not something I ever thought I would write about, maybe a little bit at some point, but I never thought that I would have this much to say until my understanding of my own pain finally came full-circle and I was able to not only understand it all, but also articulate it inContinue reading “How to Heal Your Pain”

Y.O.U. Spells YOU!

What you seek can only be found within yourself. You have the power to be as you wish to be, live as you wish to live internally. It is in that place where your universe resides. The universe, YOUR universe only lives inside of YOU.  External circumstances are a reflection of the internal circumstances.  SeekingContinue reading “Y.O.U. Spells YOU!”

Friendly Update

Hello everyone!  My apologies for not having posted in a while, I was pretty busy and lately I have been taking some time for myself.  BUT I am slowly starting to get back into action.  I will admit, I have been sort of lazy.  I have tons of stuff in the vault just waiting toContinue reading “Friendly Update”

How to Meet Your True Self

I have thought A LOT about this post (no pun intended lol).  In fact, it’s probably been months that I’ve been trying to get my thoughts about this in order in a way to get my thoughts about this “out there.”  I really wanted to do a post about this, but I found myself unableContinue reading “How to Meet Your True Self”

How to Be Fully Present

What does being present mean to you?  How in your life do you stay present? To me, presence has two key components. Presence in mind and presence in body.  You can be one or the other. Or you can be both. Being truly present means to be present and think present. It can be consciousContinue reading “How to Be Fully Present”

What is SpiritYOUality

There’s a reason that there’s a “U” right smack dab in the middle of it. Some may view it in religious or mystical terms, but what does spirituality actually mean?  What does it mean to be spiritual? Although any definition will suffice for each individual, as you will see, spirituality is about self and yourContinue reading “What is SpiritYOUality”

How to Validate Connection

Have you ever talked to a friend after having a rough experience?  Wanting them to tell you how horrible it was, wanting them to tell you the same things that you are telling you about that experience? Why aren’t your own feelings about that experience enough?  Why do you seek external validation for your experience?Continue reading “How to Validate Connection”

The Truth About Labels

Labels are of this world, but what we use them for are things that are not of this world.  Labels, descriptions, any other kind of word that you can use that is similar to the word “label”- they are all one and the same.  We use them in our lives in order to communicate withContinue reading “The Truth About Labels”

What is True Strength?

What does it truly mean to be strong? What does strength look like? Some might say that holding your emotions in, not crying when you feel sad and want to cry or holding other things in. Instead of speaking your mind you just “take the hits” that you get and you deal with them asContinue reading “What is True Strength?”

What is Pain?

What comes to your mind when you think about pain?  Do you think about it and wish that you never had to feel it ever again?  When you feel pain, what do you do with that pain? They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.  How manyContinue reading “What is Pain?”


Hatching out of my shell, I will pierce through and walk without fear.  Pain can be inspirational, but so can love. Check out my blog’s Facebook page and Pursue You Coaching Facebook page for more information and join my Facebook Group or contact me at for a FREE 30 minute session.

Soul Song 🎶

Do you hear that?  It’s the sound of your soul, your song.  It’s starts out as a blunt deep repetitive piano rhythm.  Over and over, the same beat sounds.  It keeps repeating and repeating and repeating and repeating.  Your soul keeps this beat, locked tightly away inside.  Nobody else can hear it.  But then, anContinue reading “Soul Song 🎶”

Note to Self

I want you to know that I love you.  You are such a great person and you have a lot of qualities that are admired by others.  You have come such a long way from where you started and I know that you can tell the difference.  Please do not think that this progress isContinue reading “Note to Self”


Stay within the present moment my dear, that’s the place which things will be clear. It’s never about trying to fight your happiness when going through pain, it’s about feeling the pain, every single inch of it and finding your peace within it all. No, it’s not about replacing your pain or negativity with happinessContinue reading “Peace”


Control.  How much control do we actually have over our lives?  How much can we actually do physically?  How much can we do in our inner world?  What about fate and destiny?  If we do have control, do we have absolute control?  I think it all ties into one another, like a chain effect.  IContinue reading “Control”

Vulnerable Stillness

You are beautiful, dear soul.  Please do not let anyone from your past dictate how you feel about yourself, any such thoughts are just simply not true.  I know that it gets rough sometimes and the lows are hard to handle, but I promise that you will be okay, as I always say.  I promiseContinue reading “Vulnerable Stillness”

November 20, 2015

Speak what is in your heart dear child.  Do not let anyone or anything hold you back from your truth and your heart.  Your path is not easy and I understand that.  Do not give up, never give up.  You will get your relief I promise, and all that you go throuh today will makeContinue reading “November 20, 2015”

How about a mind boggle?

How can you describe a love that makes you feel like you’re losing yourself, but that loss being just an illusion to the truth.  That truth being that the loss of yourself is truly a gain of yourself, your true self.  It’s so paradoxal.  And it rings true with the polarity of this universe.  What’sContinue reading “How about a mind boggle?”

You are everything

Keep your mind calm, dear soul.  Do not let it wander.  Your wish will be my command, don’t let your running thoughts ruin what is destined for you. You are beautiful dear one and you are exquisitely perfectly imperfect.  Don’t forget that.  You are not separate from everybody.  You are just as much an importantContinue reading “You are everything”


All is well with your world.  Fight your temptations if they don’t serve your best interests.  I know things are quite confusing for you now but I promise, as I always do that things will get better.  It just takes some time.  Be patient and be at peace.  You know how to do these thingsContinue reading “Butterfly”


I know you have traveled a long and difficult road.  Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in our own victimization and say “why me?” but I am here to tell you that this will not last for forever.  I promise you that relief is coming.  You say, “well you’ve told me that before andContinue reading “Relief”

Letting Go

Relax, stop thinking so much. It doesn’t matter how it happened but it did and that’s all in the past now. I am proud of the way you are handling it and remember, everything happens according to plan. This was all part of your journey – accept it and move forward without dwelling too much.Continue reading “Letting Go”

Let the Story Unfold

Dear little one, do not worry.  Remember that what appears good is not always good and what appears bad is not always bad.  I am always with you.  Just close your eyes and you will feel me.  You are beautiful, don’t you forget that.  Remember that life is not planned out as a repetitive cycle,Continue reading “Let the Story Unfold”

Live Now

Remember to live in the present moment. You have strayed from this lately and that’s okay. It’s part of the plan but now’s the time where you need to work on yourself and get back to that state of mind. I know you can do it, you are determined, but it won’t come easy asContinue reading “Live Now”

You Are Not Crazy

I want to speak with you. You have gone through a rough patch recently – and all of that is absolutely okay. You are not crazy my dear. You are perfectly fine and what you are feeling and experiencing is REAL. Don’t forget that. Let it all go. You have the power to have anythingContinue reading “You Are Not Crazy”

Focus on the Positive

Good job keep up the good work. You are doing excellent. Stay patient and positive. Believe and trust. I know that it’s hard sometimes and lately your “head” is really starting to get you, but just relax and trust. Think about all the reasons you should trust us, not reasons not to. Sometimes one badContinue reading “Focus on the Positive”

Love is Everything

Love is everything. Love is all that there is. The base of the survival of the human race is love, at its very core. Be patient with yourself and others. Remember that there is only love and we are all one – love. Sometimes things get tough, we must be patient. Everyone has their ownContinue reading “Love is Everything”


Love yourself and love other people. Not just for your own good but for the good of others. We are not separate from the miracle that surrounds us. We are not separate from the natural flow of life. Just as plants and animals, our lives have a natural flow to it and its purpose isContinue reading “Acceptance”

Progress Takes Time

Love cannot be contained. It shoots out from all of us faster than anything imaginable. It radiates out and penetrates everything and everyone we come into contact with, regardless of what we may think of them. We are all the same on the inside. We are all made up out of the same thing. LoveContinue reading “Progress Takes Time”

Follow Your Own Path

Be yourself in everything that you do. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. This is your life and only your life, all other opinions outside of your own do not matter. It’s always good to reach out for help, but in the end you have to be confident in yourself and follow your ownContinue reading “Follow Your Own Path”

Flow With the River

As sure as the sun will rise and give me a brand new day I know God will give me what I need whenever I need it. Relax beautiful, all is well. You are a wonderful human being and you are a wonderful soul. There are not many out there that are quite like you,Continue reading “Flow With the River”

Accept Your Feelings

You will be okay I promise, you will get through this just as you have gotten through all the rough times you have gone through before. You can’t change how you feel – just accept your feelings. But you cannot let your feelings affect you and your life that you live. Don’t worry about whatContinue reading “Accept Your Feelings”

Empower Yourself

You are not what others say you are unless you give them more power over your own thoughts. You have a bright light, let that light out and let people see your light. Your light can pierce through even the blackest of darks. Don’t wallow away in sadness – let your light shine out andContinue reading “Empower Yourself”

Believe What You Believe

Don’t feel discouraged, keep your head up and have some confidence in yourself. Keep that power strong, don’t let it dwindle. You noticed the opposite situation in all of this and saw that things are not always as they seem and you had a feeling from the very beginning what it really was. Trust yourContinue reading “Believe What You Believe”


Be patient my darling, good things come in due time. We can’t get restless. Restlessness is impatience and impatience is unhappiness and anticipation for the future. Our lives are filled with joy every second of our lives. Do you feel lucky to have a life? Be grateful for the smaller things in life and youContinue reading “Patience”

Believe in Yourself

Relax little one, all is well. Things are on the up and up and soon you will get the chance to recognize this for yourself. Believe in yourself my dear. You have many many strengths. I know that you have been wrong in the past and that is quite okay, but just because you haveContinue reading “Believe in Yourself”

Beauty in Everything

This is a beautiful world, don’t you see? If you look at the things that surround you, whether it be nature or a building do you not see the beauty in it all? When you feel like nothing, when you feel like your stuck in the mud, just look at your surroundings. What is theContinue reading “Beauty in Everything”

New Possibilities

Don’t get discouraged. Think about everything that you have learned. Don’t let your ego destroy you. Remember that just because something happened before, doesn’t mean it’s bound to happen again. Open the door to the new possibilities. It’s hard to believe sometimes because it has yet to happen to us. The worst possible outcome isContinue reading “New Possibilities”

What to Do?

You already know what to do.  Just follow your heart.  Remember it’s all part of the plan.  You haven’t given up on yourself and don’t think that you have just because things aren’t being done daily doesn’t mean progress is not being made.  Keep control of that ego and keep it from spinning out ofContinue reading “What to Do?”

A Different Perspective

You are light, you are love, you are happiness and you are joy. All of these things combined but the biggest aspect is love. God loves you and we love you. We only wish to serve you your greatest good. But just as messages from above get misinterpreted by the human hand & mind, muchContinue reading “A Different Perspective”

See the "Good" in the "Bad"

Keep up the good work. You are a very passionate person and you’re good at what you do. Be a little patient this might take some time. God is good and great. Relief is just around the corner. You did a good job this time around and passed the test. Congratulations. It is always okayContinue reading “See the "Good" in the "Bad"”

Intuition and Self-Empowerment

In order to separate your intuition from your desires you have to be persistent. You have to be able to recognize when your desires are taking over your brain. You have to know when your mind is making a conscious thought. You need to control your thoughts. It will take time and practice and patience,Continue reading “Intuition and Self-Empowerment”


You are not crazy. You don’t need anything to prove that what you think and feel is right. Stop analyzing everything and seeking validation for what you believe. Everything will work itself out. Just keep doing what you have been doing and when the time is right, the answer will come to you. Just don’tContinue reading “Confidence”

Gratitude & Surrender

Surrender to God, surrender to love. You have traveled a very long way and realized that this very process all started a long time ago. It wasn’t until you finally learned your lesson that your life started to pave a new and easier path. The years of anxiety and “bad luck” or your “dark cloud”Continue reading “Gratitude & Surrender”

A Little Encouragement

Hang tight there. You will be just fine I promise. You have come such a long way. Believe it and be proud of yourself. You’ve worked so hard this far and I promise just as I always do that you will be rewarded for your efforts. Check out my blog’s Facebook page and Pursue You Coaching Facebook page forContinue reading “A Little Encouragement”

Rock Bottom

I have had the wonderful opportunity to have the knowledge and recognition that everything happens according to plan.  Things in life are either lessons or blessings or just events that lead us to fulfilling our life’s purpose.  I had my “dark night of the soul” while in college.  I will spare the details, but forContinue reading “Rock Bottom”

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