Read the article or scroll down to watch the video below! Video includes an interview with someone who had a bad coaching experience
There are A LOT of life coaches out there. Whether they focus on a specific area or not, there are many many coaches to choose from. So how do you choose a good one? Here are a few things that you need to know if you want to pick out a good coach that will be worthwhile and actually give you the results that you are looking for versus keeping you on their books:
- Choose a coach that resonates with you.
This is especially true when it comes to choosing a spiritual coach. Spirituality is an inner journey and if your coach is coaching you in a route that doesn’t resonate with you, you won’t achieve the results that you are looking for. A spirituality coach helps you get closer with yourself. This is also ESPECIALLY true when it comes to a twin flame coach and in spiritual connections. I have talked about spiritual connections in previous posts in this blog, and there is a lot of information “out there” regarding all of the labels. If you want to go down a spiritual “worm hole” – Google Twin Flames. A coach is not there to validate the story that you’ve always told yourself, they are there for you to challenge yourself, question yourself, and consider other thought processes other than the ones you’ve always had (you go to a coach for change after all) but if they do not resonate with your core values, then you may not get what you’re seeking out of coaching.
- Find a coach that has actually done the work themselves.
Do as I say not as I do right? A coach that has actually gone through the process within themselves is going to be able to better assist you than a coach who has not. When we go through the same processes as someone else, we are better able to understand what the other person is going through and rather than repeating things someone may have learned getting some type of certificate, they are actually giving you the tools that you are seeking from personal experience. I am not against certificates, I have one, however, coaching someone is not something that you can just go to school for. There is a deeper level of understanding that the coach must have, and, if your coach is not practicing what they preach, how are you going to react to that as a client of theirs?
- Do one-on-one sessions.
Many coaches out there have webinars, seminars, e-books, you name it. However, we are all different and we each have different thought processes, trauma, etc., and this requires more individualized attention. What is needed for one person may not be needed for another person. I do webinars, I am not against these kinds of things, however, you will get more out of your experience with a coach if you are doing one-on-one sessions rather than group-type classes or webinars or seminars, etc.
- Don’t fall for the usual marketing techniques.
If a coach is guaranteeing you results in a specific time period, or guaranteeing anything whatsoever, it’s just a marketing technique. Coaching requires the client’s participation. The client is the one that is wanting to change, the coach cannot do this for the client. The client needs to do their part in order for results to be achieved. So if any coach guarantees any kind of result, they’re just trying to entice you in. Also beware of coaches that try to keep you on as a client. They will maybe offer one type of “class” and then after you go through that, they’ll use the same marketing technique in order to get you to purchase another class, and so on and so forth. Coaches also sometimes use misleading titles to entice you in to watching a video, for example, just for you to not get the information that you watched the video for…but what you will get is them telling you at the end of the video to check out their website or to purchase some type of class, book, package, etc. in order to get the information that you’re seeking. Certain marketing techniques are very tempting, but stop and think about it for a minute before you make a choice on a coach because they said they can get you your twin flame back in 3 weeks, or help you make 6 figures in 6 months, or help you reconcile a relationship in 3 months. Even worse, be aware of coaches that claim that they have done something that seems ‘too good to be true’ – people do lie, or they twist the truth to fit their own agenda. I have seen these types of ads pop up for me, claiming “I got my blog 10,000 followers in 30 days.” I am not saying that some things are not possible, extraordinary things happen all the time, but be cautious.
- A coach is more of a “guide” than a “teacher.”
Again, this is especially more true for spiritual coaches. There are many self-proclaimed “gurus” and “teachers” – think about this. If a guru was that much of a guru, would they have to call themselves a guru? Wouldn’t their “guru” title be determined and given to them by those excluding themselves? If someone is a self-proclaimed “guru” all they are doing is placing that label upon themselves, that’s it. A coach should guide you rather than teach you. Again, spiritual matters are internal matters and a coach should make you question yourself and help you get closer to yourself because of it, and they may teach you a few things as well, however, they should not act as a sort of authority figure over you like a cult leader would, for example. A good coach should help you see how you are your best guide, your heart is your best guide, your truth is your best guide. This doesn’t mean that we don’t listen to others’ input, but a good coach should help you trust yourself and your own guidance, especially spiritually.
Last but not least, a good coach should want you to receive results. Again, if a coach is trying to keep you on as a client and keeps telling you that you need a different “class” or that you need to [essentially pay them more money for results], they are more interested in keeping you on as a client than helping you. A good coach may offer different things to you, but they should not tell you that you need to purchase more classes or a different webinar, or a different set of books, in order to get results. If the marketing promise is 6 figures in 6 months, they shouldn’t put you through a $3,000 class and when you don’t get results, tell you that you need to purchase something else in order to make 6 figures in 6 months, and at that point their promise of 6 months will probably have already expired! They don’t want you to make 6 figures, they want you to help them make 6 figures!
Change first happens within, do not expect coaching or anything else external to “do the work” for you.
Don’t feel like reading? Check out the YouTube video for this topic below for more, it comes with an interview in the second half of the video with someone who had a bad experience with Twin Flame Universe Coaching!
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3 thoughts on “How to Choose a Good [Life, Spiritual, Twin Flame, Relationship] Coach & How to Avoid Scam Artist ‘Coaches’”
It’s great that you said that a competent coach could provide you with multiple options, but they shouldn’t advise you to buy more lessons, a new webinar, or a different collection of books in order to see results. I’m attempting to lead a more fulfilling life, therefore I was wondering whether working with a spiritual life coach may assist me in doing this and draw me nearer to God. While I look at setting up a soon appointment for a spiritual life coaching session, I’ll keep what you mentioned in mind.
Well there are those folks that “bait” people into buying their product. For example, someone creates a YouTube video on “3 things to say to him to get him to come back” (something like that) and the title baits you into watching the video. After watching the 3 minute video you walk away with nothing more than just a bunch of “filler stuff” that has minimal to do with the title of the video and complete with an ending that goes like “if you want to know the 3 things to say to get him to come back, click the link and buy my book.” For me, that kind of thing is a definite red flag. Then there are those coaches that “make up” new things and tell you how you need this *new* program they have or *that new webinar* in order to see results. Key words there are “in order to see results.” Any coach that tells you that you need to buy something else, like a different package or webinar *in order to see results* that is another red flag. It is a red flag because of some of the things I talk about in this article. The #1 thing being – it isn’t the product that gets results, it is YOU that gets results! YOU as a client are doing the work; I as a coach am not doing the work for you…I’m assisting, but I’m not the one doing the work. Now some people do better with different methods, just like in learning some people are more visual, etc. However, a coach shouldn’t realize that you are more visual halfway thu the coaching package and then create a new package for you to purchase that is more visual, and continue on the rest of the current package as they have been doing, then tell you to buy the more visual package afterwards. They should immediately start incorporating those visual aspects to the CURRENT package. Good luck in your search! I do have free 30 min “discovery sessions” available if you’d like to schedule one, if not or if you do it and it doesn’t work out, I also have a network of other good coaches that I can point you towards. Also feel free to email me if you’d like additional input or help with your search!